Tuesday, 6 April 2010

1 Year Anniversary tomorrow

Since last time I wrote, Rob and I have moved away from England. And Thank GOD. Us Australian's are not designed to deal with a near constant drizzle that seems to be the deal in Britain.

Anyway, we've moved now, back the Czech Republic, which is the third time for each of us living here. The choice was made and implemented in about two and a half weeks, which has to be some kind of crazy record. It involved a lot of detachment about belongings and a lot of donations to the charity shop, a lot of cleaning and a lot of last minute jettisoning at the airport due to mis-judged weight of bags. And then 12 hours of travel. Bleh.

However, what I actually want to talk about is this: We're coming up to our one year anniversary of marriage tomorrow. Fate has conspired to put us back in the country where we got married, which is kind of nostalgic. And time has just flown by, one year has gone by faster than either of us expected.
That's not to say that it's been easy - I doubt that learning to live with a new person ever is - for one thing, you discover the nutty habits that the other person has (Bert puts back empty containers in the fridge and pantry, I talk and shout in my sleep). But beyond that shallow stuff, there's a deeper level to what changes. You stop functioning as a single person. Choices are almost entirely shared, and you learn how to consult in front of people with a well chosen look.
It's difficult to properly explain how things change. It's been a good year. A year in which we've moved house twice, country once, and struggled through bureaucracy the whole way, since the UK is under the collective impression that marrying outside your country is bad.

I think that we've been lucky in that the problems that we've faced have not come from within the marriage, and so consequently have strengthened it. The most important thing that I've really realized is that no matter how pissed you are, you turn to the other person for support. That's what they're there for.

All I can hope for really is that this next year will contain less outside challenges.

When I find the camera in the boxes, I intend to post some photos of the town. Till then, later days.